Every January, people fall into two categories: Enthusiastic Resolution-ers, or Non-Believers. A Non-Believer is someone who either, 1) made resolutions in the past, and broke them before you could even say ‘Dry January’, 2) never saw the need to because they are totally perfect (if that’s the case, tell us your secret!). I, however, fall proudly in the Enthusiastic Resolution-er category. Each December 31st, I gingerly take out either my journal (or as of most recent, my iPhone notes) and pen down 5-15 resolutions. This is a sacred tradition. Sometimes, the resolutions are the same from year to year. Not everything is achievable in one year, after all. While people may argue that resolutions are pointless, especially when so many people “fail” so soon after making them, I believe they are really useful and let me tell you why…
They Make You Reflect
The end of the year and the beginning of the new one are a great time to look back at what you did well and what you didn’t do so well in the last year. Self-reflection is so important, and not many people do it. If you want to lose 20 pounds but you eat all the chocolate and pizza and have never stepped on a treadmill, your first step in achieving your resolution is some self reflection. Is it actually possible for you to lose weight (write a novel, learn a language, be more productive, etc.) without making some major lifestyle changes? Probably not. Admitting to yourself the areas you need to work on is the first step to achieving any goal.
They Make You Take Ownership
There is something powerful about penning down your resolutions and actually attempting them. It shows that you’re taking ownership of areas in your life that need improvement. It doesn’t stop with the pen and paper, however. While resolutions are an excellent way to reflect, they mean nothing until you start taking action, and that’s where the beauty of it sits. Even though many people see New Year’s Resolutions as a waste of time because so many people ‘fall off the wagon’, so to speak, what other thing motivates THAT many people, COLLECTIVELY, to get off their ass and stop drinking, smoking, start going to the gym, learning a new skill, start being kinder to people, etc.? At least for a short time, they feel empowered to take control back of their lives and do something about it!
They Don’t Go Away With One Failure
I’m the kind of person that likes starting (or restarting) things on the first day of the year, month, week, etc. Starting it at the beginning of something like the New Year makes it easier to measure how far you’ve come. That being said, just because you ate a pizza on the 15th of January, after having resolved to ‘eat healthier’ does not negate your resolution. It’s all about progress, and not perfection. I highly recommend for you to listen to this podcast by Cassy Joy Garcia, from Fed and Fit, on being Progress Driven, rather than aiming for perfection. If you throw out those 14 previous days of healthy eating, just because you had one day of fun, that’s never going to show you any progress. Accept the moment of ‘weakness’ or whatever you want to call it, and learn from it. Did the pizza make you happy? Did you feel good physically afterwards? Is that a feeling that is worth it? Take note, rather than quit, because your resolution can still be a year long thing, and allow room for enjoying your life and having those days of fun!
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I really enjoyed reading this post! I’m normally a non-believer, not because I think they’re a waste of time, just because it personally doesn’t work for me, when I want to make some kind of change, I have to do it there and then. But this year I’ve had some unintentional New Year’s Resolutions and I’m doing really well so far! This post made me think so differently about them xo
January 16, 2018 at 6:11 amAww Sian, thanks for such kind words 🙂 I’m glad it made you rethink your relationship with with resolutions! What is your unintentional resolution? I’m always curious to know what other people are working on 🙂
January 16, 2018 at 7:36 amI whole heartedly agree with what you’ve said. I don’t care if people don’t agree with resolutions- each to their own but I hate it when they moan at others or make others feel bad for doing them. I’ve always been a very goal focused person and although I’m not doing yearly resolutions this year, I’m doing monthly goals instead. I absolutely LOVE all of yours!
January 16, 2018 at 11:27 amYes! Exactly, Jenny! The worst is when other people want you to give up on your goals (for example, eating healthy) because they don’t want to be alone in their habits! I always go out of my way to encourage people who are setting goals like that, so I don’t understand it when others want you to fail.
What are you focusing on this month?
January 16, 2018 at 6:28 pmYes! I am loving this post. I’m sort of in the middle of a resolution-er and a no go but when people fully poo poo you trying to do good it makes me so mad!
January 16, 2018 at 11:47 amDefinitely agree. There isn’t any reason for people to be negative, especially when someone wants to improve themselves!
January 16, 2018 at 6:29 pmLoved this post! I think New Year is a great time to reflect and make goals/resolutions for the year ahead which is what I do. And I love yours, hope the French goes well! (if it doesn’t, I teach Latin haha!)
January 16, 2018 at 3:25 pmThanks Sarah! Ooooo! How did you discover you liked Latin? Was it difficult to learn?
January 16, 2018 at 6:24 pmThese are such amazing resolutions! You can totally do this my lovely! You can do this sweetheart!
Love, Amie ❤
January 16, 2018 at 5:00 pmThe Curvaceous Vegan
Thanks so much for your encouragement, Amie! I feel like they are achievable goals so I’m feeling very positive!
January 16, 2018 at 6:30 pmI really love this post! I absolutely love New Years resolutions and they always make me excited for the New Years. I love your resolutions and hopefully you’ll achieve them all x
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January 16, 2018 at 11:06 pmI love this! My New Year’s Resolutions are something I always do, every year without fail. It sets you up for the year and makes you focus with some willpower. Best of luck for sticking with them!
Amy | hookedonthemusic.com
January 17, 2018 at 6:59 pmI love everything that you’ve said in this blog post. I have found that my relationship with God has struggled a little bit over the past year so I’m comforted to know I’m not the only one who has not made Him as much as a priority as I should have done. I loved this babe, really well-written. Thanks for sharing ??✨
With love, Alisha Valerie. x
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